I love the desert and I absolutely adore living in Scottsdale.
It’s only a short plane ride to LA (tickets are around $60 roundtrip this time of year) and I get the spiritual energy and peace that I need to live a very well balanced and productive lifestyle. Not to mention, I don’t spend most of my time sitting in traffic -_-
My only gripe is the three digit weather during the Summer. It makes it almost impossible to leave the house and when June rolls around, it’s easy for someone like me to get cabin fever. During these times, is when I start considering moving to other places.
Last weekend, I took a road trip to LA and it was a nice little break from the heat. I also had the opportunity to wear some real clothes since the weather was in the 70s. I threw on a colorful jacket and some thigh highs, and spent most of the day on Melrose wall hunting (man it’s a fav thing to do for bloggers in LA — the artwork is so dope), and hitting the beach.
It was very rejuvenating.
I’ve been seriously considering moving back to LA to grow xoNecole, and focus on producing video series and better content for the site, however the energy didn’t feel right to me just yet.
I’ve come to realize that I have a serious issue.
Over the last 8-10 years, I’ve been suffering from destination addiction. It’s the idea that happiness is in the next place, next job, next city, next relationship versus where you currently are. Honestly, after moving to over 8 cities and counting, I’m starting to realize that it’s really up to me to find happiness within myself, and create the life I want for myself no matter where I am, and then I won’t feel this need to keep hopping from state to state and city to city.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not done exploring yet. My dream is to live in London for a few months, (just to get the experience of living out of the country out of the way), but I have to do it when the timing is right and I have to plan, versus just doing it!
If it’s one lesson I’ve learned over the past year is, ‘If you fail to plan, plan to fail.’ And lord knows I’ve fallen flat on my face quite a few times from making drastic life-changing decisions.
But I’ve also bounced back plenty of times.
And guess what, without having that courage to go for it, I wouldn’t be where I am now.
So with love, I say if you want to change some aspects of your life, such as move to a new city, get a new job, leave your current relationship, and so forth….PLAN. And create an advisory board of people who have your best interest at heart that will help you. On Twitter the other day, I saw a quote that said, one of the worst things we can do is confide in people who help us make fear-based decisions.
And it is so true. Sometimes the opinions of people (who don’t really know us) are too loud and drown out what we really want for ourselves. If you want to move to a new city, you have to confide in people who are encouraging or have done it before, versus those who have never left their home base. The people who have never left home will give you all the reasons why you shouldn’t go for it, because their perspective is based on fear and they lack the experience necessary to help you come to a decision that may be best for you.
Read This: Why You Need To Move Away From Your Hometown
Moving forward, I’m drowning out a few opinions of where I should be to make my career pop and I’m following my heart on this one. I’ll be staying in the desert a bit longer, with my occasional road trips to the Canyons, LA, San Fran, San Diego and Big Sur (woot!), and I’m more than confident I will continue to find the happiness I have been seeking by creating the life of my dreams, right here.
Here are the deets on my outfit of the day!
Byron Lars Cardi Jacket
MLC Reflector Shades (found these on Amazon for like 8 bucks!)
Candid Art Vine Necklace
Windsor Diamond Cut Lace Up Boots
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P.S. This jacket has totally become my fav item. It’s from Byron Lars Fall/Winter 2016 Campaign
That jacket
yass
R you Ethiopian , Necole ? Just beautiful !
Those boots tho Necole
This is so me!!!!! I FEEL YOUR PAIN NECOLE!!! It is so hard for me BC I love new cities , fresh starts. I moved two years ago and would love to again. But I have a family and it is not fair to them. …I have to love where I am and stay awhile.
You really are an inspiration. I followed your gossip blog religiously and loved it, but what you’re doing now? This is awesome. This is great. Best wishes – and I’ll keep reading.
Absolutely love this article!!! Thank you!
One of my favorite reads from you!! It is great and honest!!!
Girl yes! Failing to plan is planning to fail! Thanks for showing me this!
You will love London since you love the wall art. My daughter took some beautiful pics while there. She too wanted to live there for a year.
I can totally relate!!Great read! Oh & I love the thigh high sandals
Did you write how and why you moved to Scottsdale?
I was attracted to the healing energy out here. And trust me, I was so broken. Once I came it made it easier for me to transition in my career and let go of those things that no longer served me so that I could make room for the things that did. ☺️
I see. Thanks for sharing. I know it wasn’t easy, but looks like you did the right thing 🙂
You’re winning me over again. These articles are great. I can relate and have moved more than you, can you believe it? I’m trusting God to give me peace exactly where I am.
I actually moved from LA to Dallas for the same reasons! Needed something new!
Thank you for sharing for it helps to know I’m not alone
Please keep us updated on your journey to London. I too would like to move there and visit once a year to remind myself of my goals, and get the peace and energy being there gives me.
I LOVE this article.
That outfit is banging!
Hi Necole!! I can definitely relate to this article. I recently moved to Phoenix from NY in hopes to move back to LA finish pursuing my music business career but my spirit is saying not yet. Over the time I’ve been in phx I’ve learned that you have to find peace wherever you are. Nothing stops until I say so and like j Cole said “it’s not the environment, but your perspective that needs to change”… Stay blessed Necole and continue to be the blessing you are!!
Impeccable timing. Incredible wisdom. Super proud to see your transition!!! I love what you’re doing-keep it up!!
Now Necole! I’m going to need you to stop speaking to my ENTIRE soul every time I read your blog post. Lol jk. But really, I admire what you do and find joy in the fact that you are human like all of us and go through similar issues. These stories make your journey all the more inspirational. It helps me to see the little twinkle of light at the end of the tunnel and push myself to keep going. Thank you.
Do what makes your heart content especially if you’re single without children or a woman with adult children! As women we often spend too much time in the space of ” waiting ” or in a state of chronic “dis satisfaction”. Walk for Joy! Give yourself permission to live as wild and free as you like.
Love this! I agree! She definitely should keep taking advantage of this time.
You are so absolutely gorgeous! I love the fact that you are embracing you and doing what you love, that’s motivating. Also, ‘destination addiction’ is something that is so complex because there has to be honesty about the lives and desires of the truly wanderlust and those who just randomly are hopping to places to find themselves. Both are important topics, but I think in your discussion just puts the wanderlust in the box of the confused. I would love to see you address this more because you are definitely a fellow wanderlust member.
I think wanderlust is the love for travel and seeing new places. Destination Addiction is the constant moving (Like I literally uprooted my life over and over again and started over all while believing the next destination was what would make me happy.) The key is to have a home (you are happy with) but be able to travel and happily see the world as well.