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Why I Did A Life Purge Before I Moved To New York

Why I Did A Life Purge Before I Moved To New York

I know it’s been a while since I’ve written a note on here.

This year, my life has undergone some major changes. 2017 has grown me, shifted me, and evolved me. So much has been happening behind the scenes and I can’t wait to reveal some of the things I have in store for you.

But, before I do, there is something important that I want to say…

I’m a New Yorker now!

Today makes it a week since I made the official move to New York City.

Yes, I moved back to the East Coast. Yes, this is really happening and yes, I’ve started over, once again.

While pursuing my goals and dreams, I’ve moved so many times that you’d think I could do this with my eyes closed.  But what made this time so different from the other cross-country and state-to-state moves I’ve made in the past, is that I decided to forgo any sort of relocation services. This time, I got rid of almost everything I owned.

The decision to downsize was influenced by a call I received from a very successful friend while I was looking for the most inexpensive option for a mover. She revealed to me that she was losing her passion in life and in her career and she felt stagnant.

My friend wanted to move across the country but, to her surprise, a relocation service gave her a quote of almost $20,000, which immediately shattered her plans to uproot and leave. The accumulation of clothes, high-end furniture, her office equipment, and her car would cost her tens of thousands of dollars to take with her.

For months, she put off moving and existed in a space of unhappiness in her career and life.

After we hung up, I was reminded that we can easily become enslaved by the accumulation of material things that have no real value in our lives. The book The Happiness Project, as well as the documentary, The Minimalist, teaches us the concept of decluttering. It has been proven that living with less and having fewer possessions improves the quality of our lives tremendously.

So, why do we hold on to these things?

After taking inventory of the various items I was attempting to drag across the country with me, I realized that wasn’t the best move. There were a bunch of things I had accumulated through my different moves over the last few years that had no real value to me.

The furniture and appliances could be replaced.

The books donated.

Most of the bags, shoes, and clothes that I owned were collecting dust and represented the person I used to be.

But I wasn’t that woman anymore.

It was in that moment that I remembered a quote I heard Devi Brown mention, “A snake that cannot shed its skin will perish,” and it clicked for me.

If I truly wanted to start a new chapter, I’d have to shed myself of my old skin and everything that no longer served me.

That would include friendships, relationships, and material things. When one of your goals in life is to climb the mountain of success, the higher the climb, the heavier the burden of useless things will weigh on you.

It’s almost impossible to grow without eliminating.

I had to get rid of it all.

Over a two-week period, I sold all of my furniture,  donated the bulk of my clothes and appliances to homeless shelters, and I dropped my car off to Carmax where they wrote me a check on the spot.  Getting rid of my car was probably the hardest decision to make because it was on my vision board for a long time before I purchased it as a Christmas gift to myself in 2012. But I’m a true believer and a testament that what you are willing to give up and sacrifice for your dreams will eventually be restored tenfold.  I had no use for it in New York or in the new part of my journey.

On Tuesday, July 18, I showed up at JFK with suitcases filled with everything else I owned. The only things I felt I truly needed.

 

I gave some of my books to one of my Instagram followers who just moved to Arizona.

I felt light.

I felt free.

Even a week later, I realize now that I don’t miss any of the things that I gave up.

I am telling this story because I wanted to connect with others who might be on a similar path, caught in the middle with a similar conundrum. If you are at a place in life where you feel stuck, uncomfortable, or the energy in your home just does not feel right, consider doing a purge.

Purging means getting rid of anything that has outlived its purpose in your life and is no longer in alignment with your current path.

This could be a closet clean out, clearing out storage spaces, and it can even mean ending relationships and friendships that hinder you more than they serve you.

You’ll find that once you declutter, purge and let go of things that don’t align with where you want to go and who you want to be, life will begin to open up and change for the better.

When is the last time you’ve done a life purge? 

 

Let me know in the comments. Also catch up with me on Instagram or Twitter.

Related Post: How I Plan To Navigate Living In New York Differently

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86 Comments
  • B. Gray
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This is an amazing testament and testimony for me… and quite timely. I wish you continued success as you are enhanced by the decisions and sacrifices you’ve made! Peace and Blessing, and thank you for sharing.

    • Sharon L
      27 Jul ’17

      Welcome to New York sweetie!! Being a grandmother now with a 4 month old and retired, I needed to purge my house and remodeled to move my daughter son in law and my granddaughter in. After a 7 month renovation, I can testify that I gave clothes to nursing home , lupus foundation veterans and close friends and coworkers. I sold my car and live in space that is free of clutter. The perk is now I am a new creation evolving everyday. So is my baby Harper who I see everyday. We are so happy. We are Uncommon People with Uncommon Goals. Exceedingly and abundantly above and beyond all that we could dare to hope ask or think according His great power that is at work in us. Amen.

      Necole you are in my prayers sweetie!!

    • Tee S.
      27 Jul ’17

      Best wishes on your new life journey! Your purging process and living life with simplicity is truly notable. I think too many of us today think that material things define who we are and our life accomplishments, the big house, the purse, the shoes, the car. I have my own purging process to do and I’m happy to share that I could never buy an expensive bag or expensive shoes not because I couldn’t afford it or that they weren’t FLY because there are some beautiful designs out there. It was my conscience, my conscience would not allow me to “sell out” to the world of material things. Your story is a great testimony to the message that material things do not define US. Great read, thank you for sharing! Best wishes to you!! ✊

    • 27 Jul ’17

      I needed to read this right now! Thank You for sharing. This weekend I’m going to purge out all old clothes & donate them. I’ve held onto clothes and even paperwork for well over a decade that I accumulated during my depression & I no longer have any need for it. I will buy a shredder for the paperwork. This blog post really made me see it’s ok to let stuff go. Thank You for the reminder.

    • Lonette Robertson
      30 Jul ’17

      Nicole, this is exactly where I am in life right now. For years I dreamed of living abroad, and now I’m making it a reality. My house is under contract, and I’ve sold or given away just about everything I own. I’m shipping my computer, altar, meditation cushion, and my favorite books to my apartment in Abu Dhabi. I’m traveling with two duffle bags of clothing and a carry on. That’s it. In two weeks I emptied my home–a place I’ve lived since 2002– and I feel a freedom and a lightness I haven’t felt since college. Good luck to you! Happy journey for us all!

  • Tona Linnen
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    27 Jul ’17

    This year I noticed that I wasn’t happy. I started looking at things that I owned that were either gifted to me or that I bought. I decided that I wanted to start fresh. After being in a one sided relationship and friendships, I decided to walk away from it. I have noticed that I am happier. I don’t surround myself with the negative drama and negative people. I do a purge at least once a month.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    This was right in time. I had a talk with my best friend last night. It’s time to remove all toxins from my life and a life purge is son extremely necessary. I’m ready to be free and to be the inner me! Thanks for this post.

  • Ashley B
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Necole,
    Everything you have done truly amazes me. I am so happy for you and pray that God guides you on your next journey! I can’t wait to see what is next for you. I’m happy I was a true NecoleBitchie viewer otherwise, I would’ve missed out on following such a great person. Please keep us posted on your new journey. Know that you inspire so many people! Next up is to get fit like you. 🙂
    -AshBo

  • Tee Denise
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    What amazing strength and courage! I did the exact same thing when I relocated from the Midwest (IL) to Atlanta. I sold/donated EVERYTHING, and only took what I could carry or ship for very cheap. My entire move cost less than $500, WITH a one-way airline ticket!!!! And it’s very true, that what you give up/sacrifice for your dreams, will be restored, 10-fold. I also believe in quarterly purging…my mother taught me that God can’t bless you if your hands are filled with other “stuff”….so at least 1x/quarter, I’m at the Goodwill, dropping off what I don’t need or don’t use. Congratulations on your move!

    • Candra
      28 Jul ’17

      Try a Womens shelter, your items will get the most use, instead of Goodwill selling a making a profit.

  • tiffany williams
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    congratulations on your move!! i just recently went through a small life purge. after an 8 yr relationship i broke up with my ex. everything we had together HE bought. i was promoted to manager right before rhe breakup so i was able to get rid of everything he bought and got new furniture and bought my own car cash so i dnt have payments. so everything i have is MINE. not as big as a move yours but im just as happy..its refreshing…a fresh start as an independent woman. congrats again necole!

  • Pebbles Black
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I sitting here thinking about what can I leave behind to move into my new place. I will have to get rid of so much and was having a hard time doing so. “THEN” this email pop up in the mist of my thoughts. I Thank you so much, you ease my burden. I will get rid of anything I do not wish to take with me. I see its that easy. I could not sleep last night I was heart broken about giving up “my stuff”. Stuff is all it is. My mind feel light as I type this. I Thank You once again.

    • Melissa C
      27 Jul ’17

      Isn’t that beautiful how it works. Everything in divine order. I’m glad you were able to receive what the universe was sending your way.

  • Natalie Janine Gates
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Congrats on the move and all the Black Girl Magic you will create in NY.

    This piece spoke to me. I have so much – too much and need to do a huge purge. I’ve always wanted to live a minimalist lifestyle. I will put time on my schedule to decrap.

    Again, thank you for your post. I hope you enjoy all that NY has to offer.

    Blessings,
    Janine

  • F. Alexis
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    In the middle of purging right now. I have things in storage bins for when I eventually move out again. I should probably go through those things too. But it’s a great exercise having less things.

  • Ashley Jones
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I have been reading up on minimalist living and I recently began the purging process. I was real into makeup and nail polish and had over 150 bottles of polish tons of makeup and I was just like what am I doing with all this stuff lol. I don’t even use half of it. It’s hard for me to part with a lot of the makeup because of how expensive it is and it makes me think of how much money I threw away and am about to throw away. But I am in a cluttered space in my mind which I know has to do a lot with my environment. So I’m still in the purging process. This was a great read! Thanks for sharing. Hopefully I will get to this point soon.

  • Erika
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Necole, congrats! We share so many similarities. I just moved to NYC from Atlanta, purged/gave away a lot of my belongings (in which I placed way too much value) and started over. I, too, was at a standstill in my career/personal life and knew I needed to make a change and really start living life instead of waiting for it to happen. I just started “The Happiness Project” but also hope to read another Gretchen Rubin book called “Better Than Before.” After moving around and sacrificing to pursue a career in journalist (and oftentimes losing sight of my purpose and succumbing to distractions), I’m improving my faith and learning to love life. I wish you all the best!

  • Ashley
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I’ve recently began cleaning out things I no longer needed . While I always donate & clean, this time around Im really determined to live a minimalistic lifestyle or at least near it. I love the feeling of feeling lighter & believing that whatever I gave away someone else can use

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Omg. I needed to read this and today it came right on time. I’m too Necole is experiencing a life purge as we speak. It all started when I let someone I use to call a friend, use my car and they totaled it. I was so devasted and hurt, I depleted my savings account to try to replace the car, but that didn’t work out as plan. I ultimately end up creating debt for myself trying to maintain stable transportation to get to my two jobs and started to “Rob Peter to Pay Paul” because I was taken from other expenses. It was a financial nightmare. I had to set back and have a good ole talk with God because this situation added to the depression I was already facing and dealing with.

    So after listening to the pastor preach one Sunday, he advised me that it was ok to seek justice for this situation. So I sue my former friend for the damage of my car and I actually won my case. I was so excited and was determined to use my lawsuit money to purchase another vehicle, but then it hit me, God was giving me a RESET. An opportunity to use this mess as a testimony and move forward for something more worth my mind can imagine.

    Since my lease is coming to an end, I’ve decided to ask a friend if I can stay with them for a while until I get things situated and she said YES. I prayed and begin to write out my plan. I will use this lawsuit to get out of the debt from the situation and once I got the ball rolling I stop pushing things to the side and step out on a faith and rebranded my business as well. It felt so good for the purge to begin. My debt will be cleared up by the end of September and I had a whole new idea for my business. Back in 2015, I started a cosmetics company called ICandy Cosmetics because I suffer from low self-esteem and makeup was I way I got to express myself. It made me feel beautiful even at times when I didn’t. Many people were excited for me and my new business goal, but the passion starts to dwell away. My three-year relationship ended and upon moving, all of my belongings were stolen because I left someone I thought cared about me handle my moving, but I was robbed instead. Now I have nothing, everything I owed since I became an adult was gone. On top of all of that, I am depressed, I didn’t know what to do, but my goal has always been to own my business but the passion was gone and life was throwing me bricks. What’s next Lord I asked?

    Fast forward to my purging season (7/20/2017) after brainstorming and praying Build Her Up Networks was born. It all started with my thesis paper I work back in April 2017 for my final project that I needed to complete for my bachelor’s degree in Marketing. My paper was entitled “Can Idealized Images in Advertising Create Self-Doubt in Women?”. It was something I was extremely passionate about because self-esteem has always been an issue that I wanted to tackle and help other women tackle.

    Build Her Up Networks was a result in me purging. Makeup is something I love, but I’m not passionate about. During this purge, I have realized that it is okay to start over. I started over with relationship and left the toxic ones in the past, I started over with school and went back and graduate May 2017 with a Bachelors Degree in Marketing and now I am starting over with my business.

    Build Her Up Networks is a brand where we would encourage and support women entrepreneurs dreams and network. I want this brand to be a support for some who may not have any. If you’re feeling down or just need motivational my brand will be there. This is what I know, this is what I am passionate about and this was my rebranding.

    I look to women as yourself and Karen Civil as inspiration for my brand and reading your post that just the stamp that I am moving in the right direction.

    Thank you and Yes…I encourage everyone to purge. It has done me a world of good. I’m smiling, laughing and feeling a ton better.

    Thank you, Necole Kane. You have no idea what you are doing for women like me.

    Nafeesah Leverett
    Founder of Build Her Up Networks
    Instagram: @buildherupllc
    XOXO 🙂

  • Crystal S Coleman
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This is exactly what I needed. I’m about to deploy and I plan to get rid of a lot material things I don’t need when I get back.

  • Lisa Jenkins
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Congratulations on your move! This post is definitely speaking to me. After 21 years in one job, I will have to start anew. While I’m not immediately pressed about finding new employment, I have been undecided as to the direction I want to continue for the 2nd half of my life. I believe a decluttering of things and relationships are a must in order to gain clarity and will start on this immediately.

    Much success to you in your new journey in NYC!

  • Kay Wright
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Necole, first I want to congratulate you on your move and new endeavors. This post is so refreshing because it’s definitely spot on for me. I am so unhappy in my house, have been for a couple of years now, and last week, I began upgrading things around it so that I can prepare it for selling. Reading this post has confirmed that I am moving in the right direction. I know for a FACT that I’ll be extremely happy when I get rid of this cash cow.

  • JuanEsparanza
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I just purchased a new house and purged all of my old furniture. I gave a way tons of shoes, clothes, books, and appliances.
    I realized this morning that my closet is STILL FULL, full of old clothes and my “best” heels that I felt like I had to save “just in case” I decide to go out again.
    Reading this article, I realize that even if I do get out these days I just get something new, I am never going to wear those clothes again because they come with the old memories of who I used to be. Even in my new home, I still feel weighed down by old burdens and too much stuff.
    Thank you for the reminder, Nicole. Out with the old, in with the new.

  • Denise
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This is an awesome testimony. I definitely could purge some of my things. Thank you for always begin so transparent and willing to share! God’s blessings upon you with this new shift.

  • Erica Crawford
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This email came at a really good time. I’ve been feeling extremely overwhelmed by a lot of people and things, so I am feeling that a purge is necessary. I will be using part of my upcoming staycation/self-care weekend to free myself of any and everything that doesn’t feel right to me anymore. Thank You!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    You a Bad Bih; and imma let you know why as soon as I’m done my work haha it’s a lot

  • Britanny
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Necole, like so many others here this was right on time for me. I just quit my job of 2 1/2 years (a job I got after struggling for 6 months in a new city that pays more than I’ve ever made) and am relocating to Houston. Did I mention I don’t have another job lined up? I’ve never in my adult life done anything this frightening. I decided ti take a lap of faith and just go. One of my biggest worries right now is figuring out how I’m going to move all of my shit! Lol! I have debated on whether to sell it all and you may have just inspired me to do so. Thanks girl and I wish you the best of everything in life on your journey! Xoxo

  • Shonda White
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I actually purge like every 3 months. I’m trying to get my husband to do the same, but everyone has their own journey. LOL!! Purging is so necessary – for my home and for my life. I talk about it a lot because I, too, realized that I don’t even miss the things I got rid of, let alone even remember half of the things I purged. Purging for me actually helps with my anxiety too. I feel refreshed and “clean” after I do it. I love it! Another book I’ve read that helped me with that was a book called “7: Staging Your Own Mutiny Against Excess.” Talk about getting rid of excess. Thank you, Necole, for being so transparent and relatable.

  • Tiffany R.
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This is so inspirational to read. And when I got down to the part where you said that purging in your life can be as simple as a closet clean out, THAT SPOKE VOLUMES TO ME! Not even realizing it, I did a huge closet cleanout in my little studio apt a few weeks ago, just cause I know I needed more room and I was losing out on a lot of space storing things I have not used in years. After I was finished and took all my bags to the donation bins, it was such a freeing feeling and my life felt less cluttered. I come home now to more organization and not feeling sad to be in my little 375 sq ft. box that I call my place lol.

    I still feel stagnant in my career as of right now, but I know things start at home and now my mind feels more clear to tackle other things such as work. Everything you wrote makes sense and it just feels good to know that I used some self-awareness for good in my life and I’m not the only one who needs to go through things like this. It’s amazing how just feeling better on the inside can allow you to do more on the outside.

    I wish you all the success and continued prosperity. Keep it up!

  • Ama B.
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    This post was right on time and you’re words were what I needed. I’ve been feeling stuck and rudderless lately. I’m at a transition point in my life (just had a baby, having to return to a workplace that’s changed, working on my marriage) and I literally want to start over but that “starting over” looks different since we can’t up and leave our city…this purging though is going to be a start and I’m ready for it! All the best in NY and thank you for taking us on your journey!

  • Jemella
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Necole,
    I’ve been following you for a long time now and I can say that I’m truly inspired by you and your courage. The insight you give and the commitment you have to be Great is definitely something I admire. This letter in particular brought tears to my eyes because at this very moment I feel very Stagnant where I’m at in life. I feel encourgaed to keep going and stay prayed up. I remember writing you in hopes that I can work with you back in 2013. At that point my life was chaos and I needed a pick me up. You’re words stood by me and helped me get through it. I’ll never forget them. Thank you for being YOU!!!

  • Melissa C
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Three years ago I stepped out into the unknown. With the exception of favored clothing, personal items and treasured cooking/baking tools, I left it all. I went through a breakdown of course. I prided myself on being dependable , reliable, stable and always a plan in place and this was kind of action was anything but. This move forced me way outside of my comfort zone where quite honestly, felt like i was slowly dying and pushed me further into my me journey, the one where I’m alive and thriving. While looking around at all I was leaving I was forced to confront who am I without it to hide behind. I’ve always known I would be ok but now when I falter and question this idea I reflect back at that moment and know it is indeed true. When I almost ran back to the stifle of comfort, a friend told me, look, you made it this far, you’ll be ok. A new mantra was born “Step out into the faith of yourself”. Material things can be a reflection of who I was/am/will be but all that is integral to who am/will be is found within me.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I’ll be 50 this year, good Lord willing, within the next new month. I’ve raised four children, on my own, after a divorce, in 2004. All four children are grown now, and I’m starting a new chapter in my life. I’m looking to relocate into new space, hopefully not to far from my 79 year old mother. This email, made me think of my future. I don’t have much, and starting over, won’t be so hard for me, but just the thought of purging, and starting completely over, leaving the past behind, sounds refreshing. The first fifty years of my life, have been quite a struggle, although blessed, and I’m looking forward, to at least 25 to 30 more. Thanks for sharing your journey, and insight. ~Red Hawk~

  • Tia Watkins
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Amazing. I admire you on so many levels. Thank you for sharing your testimony with us. It makes a difference to know people with your influence can make these major changes in life and still feel good about the process once its all said and done. These type of stories are not shared often. Keep the updates coming. They are inspiring for us to make small changes with big impacts in our own lives.

    Tia

  • Casey Graham
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I love and admire your fearlessness and confidence. Necole, I have been following you since Necole Bitchie and I am so happy about the evolution that has taken place in your life and career. I’m happy to see other women evolving, growing, and committing to come up higher in life because it lets me see I’m not alone on this journey.
    I recently gave away a lot of purses and clothes and plan to purge my closet a lot more. I’ve also been purging old mindsets that I have allowed to keep me down and diminish me. It’s feels good to let go of the old to make room for the new.

  • Maria Hidalgo
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Amazing! Brought tears to my eyes because this is exactly what I needed to read and get that extra push to do exactly this. Thank you!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Hey Nicole. I admire your spirit and love that your sharing your journey so transparently. I’ve moved from my native home town of NY, then to MD, next to ATL. Back to MD for family obligations. I’m now ready to go again with the least amount of “stuff” as possible. Here’s to you and all the ladies out there who are wanting to live there best life!! Wishing u all the best…xoxo

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Thank you for sharing Necole! Major congrats, much success and plenty love to you. The confirmation that your email gave me is amazing; timing.

    I have been looking to move into a new apartment and have been having a hard time finding a place. (I’m in LA) There’s one listing on craigslist that I’ve considered then wiped out of my mind because I didn’t like the location BUT it essentially provides all that I need except the closet space. A month has gone by since I’ve first seen that listing and I haven’t found a place but that listing is still available/posted.

    Yesterday, I decided I’m going to “purge” my belongings and go to the scheduled open house for this listing during the weekend. Today, I read your email…I feel good about this move 🙂

    Good vibes.

    Blessings,
    ‘Traditional Jasmine’

  • Janisha C
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    Oh Necole, your spirit just captures my heart. I love this post and every other post you write. This came right on time, I truly need a purge and have been having visions of me packing up and moving to another state. This post may have just given me confirmation. Thank you for inspiring us to live life!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Thanks for this! Much needed 😉

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Another great article Necole! Welcome back to the east coast! Can’t wait to hear about all of the great things you’ve been working on.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    OMG…..I’m going through this right now prepping to move to Atlanta. It’s just more confirmation.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I really needed to read this. I have been working on PURGING and letting go of items that sit in storage my idea that I will someday need them again and won’t have them. We hold on to so much “stuff”

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Doing it now!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I did a life purge when I moved from Baltimore. Best decision I ever made, and God made sure I got double for my trouble!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Yes, I did the same thing packed and moved to NYC back in 89, it was one the best lessons I’ve learned to date.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I am ready to purge

    • 27 Jul ’17

      Yep. I’ve been doing it. 1 area at a time

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Been there. It’s just stuff you know?

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Currently considering one at the end of the year and moving to a new state

  • 27 Jul ’17

    It’s time to purge

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I’ve done it and have no qualms about doing it again! It’s a glorious feeling! Good luck on your move Necole

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I want to move down south.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    I’m becoming more of a minimalist each day, too. I am struggling with Project 333 where I need to downsize to a total of 33 items of clothing, shoes, and accessories.

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Going through it now!

  • B.hines
    Reply
    27 Jul ’17

    I haven’t done a purge but I’m feeling the need to do one and to make myself a better woman. I have noticed lately that a lot of things do not interest me anymore. I’m also trying to find my passion and suggestions on books that will help me get there. Thanks for sharing your story and allow us to watch you grow into a beautiful happy and peaceful woman your old gossip blog was one of my fav and now I can say that I don’t take time out to read any gossip site. Thanks for being you and open enough to take us on tour journey with you. I wish you nothing but the best in life!

  • 27 Jul ’17

    Considering a life purge for about a month now. No time like the present to get started.

  • 28 Jul ’17

    This was truly inspiring!! Thank you 😉

  • 28 Jul ’17

    I just moved, but involuntarily gave up my things and it’s been a difficult adjustment! This piece gave me a lot to think about, particularly with the point about shedding relationships that hinder your journey.

  • Kindall
    Reply
    28 Jul ’17

    When I moved from my townhouse that I was going to share with my ex before he was murdered, I got rid of EVERYTHING I had of his. It was such a toxic relationship, I had to throw it all away. I had it stored away for awhile after he left but throw it out and moved on with my current man.

  • Kim
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    28 Jul ’17

    5 months ago I did a purge! Sold my high end furniture, gave away things to family members in need, donated clothes and shoes to homeless shelter. I had 2 cars. I sold 1 and packed up the other w/everything I could. I drove 20 hours over 3 days. Nothing was going to keep me from starting a new job (that I now love!!!). I’m making more money than ever, my new staff is awesome, replaced all my furniture, & met a couple ppl. Best decision I ever I made! I think back to the times when I allowed “stuff” to keep me in the state I was in. I think about how much further I would’ve been in my life & career had I taken the leap… take the leap ladies! Sell that furniture, girl! Lol

  • 28 Jul ’17

    so proud of you, getting ready to have moe and thinking back on your story has given me hope and inspiration. Best of luck in all you do U are awesome !!

  • 28 Jul ’17

    Since my mom passed away, I’m thinking about leaving my current city. I can’t get a job that I want to do and I have to settle and I’m so unhappy in my sorrow. These past 10 months have been nothing but losing (relationship, job, & mom) but yet I have all this stuff that does nothing but collect dust. I needed to read this because I dream of moving to Charleston.

  • Ratasha
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    28 Jul ’17

    I needed to read this. Thank you for the inspiration.

  • 28 Jul ’17

    I love this!! A friend tagged me on the post because I was going through a purge a few weeks ago and it felt great. I read the life-changing magic of tidying up and that worked as my guide. the goal of the book is to encourage you to only keep things that spark joy. i had no idea i had so much clothing that simply did not spark joy. i will continue to purge on a regular basis, but i agree with the “light” feeling. its amazing!

  • 28 Jul ’17

    I really LOVE this!

  • 28 Jul ’17

    Did you have an apartment lined up already or are you going with divine flow?

  • 28 Jul ’17

    Yea I purged years ago and now only move with suitcases

  • 28 Jul ’17

    I recently made a move and got rid of everything. I’m rebuilding my life from scratch. I truly believe God is stripping me of all the junk in my life which includes unhealthy relationships with friends and family and is rebuilding me.

  • 28 Jul ’17

    You inspire me so much. You don’t even know!

  • Kamisha Morrison
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    28 Jul ’17

    Absolutely right on time and on point as I prepare to relocate to South Korea in 60 days! I truly need to take little with me as my living arrangements are completely taken care of and some shipping costs are covered. I have spent half of my life since leaving home for college accumulating the things I needed for my future self. Well at 41 with no kids and no significant other, as I am packing there are many things that just seem irrelevant at this point. I have been doing a lot of soul searching, donating, selling and purging, but I definitely believe this post is the push I needed to simply let it go – literally!

  • 28 Jul ’17

    I so needed to see this. Thank you for confirming that I need to purge some stuff!

  • River Malik
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    29 Jul ’17

    Necole, this is River, from back in the day. I remember when we talked about California life and going after our dreams. I am so proud to see the strides you have made since then. Haven an amazing journey in NYC. I’m watching.

  • Angela Gillespie
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    30 Jul ’17

    Great read. Looking to declutter and let go of things in my life.

  • 30 Jul ’17

    Welcome to NYC! I did the same thing 3 and a half years ago when I left D.C. Life is too short to be stagnant. Live your life!!

  • 30 Jul ’17

    We did a very similar thing, but with a family and we moved internationally. Way to go. I wish you well.
    https://mykidsintow.com/how-to-sell-all-of-your-stuff-and-mov/

  • Debe D.
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    30 Jul ’17

    So encouraging and motivating, I’m in the same position and always need that extra push to take that leap and this is just more confirmation that I’m making the right decision.

  • 31 Jul ’17

    Indeed, the things that make it with me had great meaning. Hubby just did make the cut. Lol!

  • Sandra McFarlane
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    5 Aug ’17

    Thank you for your words; they are so inspiring and genuine. May God continue to bless you on this life journey as you have blessed others with your words.

  • Clarisa Mann
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    6 Aug ’17

    Hi Necole I’m moving from New York back to Virginia. I thought New York would be my breakthrough as a television personality, however through amazing and bad experiences I find myself in an unhappy place and moving back to Virginia so that I can not only regroup but surround myself with my family and friends. Your journey gives me courage to move and start over. Knowing that New York is not the only place I can flourish gives me hope and confidence for my next step. Necole I pray god continues to use you.

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