When Life Gets Stale…
The other day, I was browsing Tumblr, when I ran across someone asking a writer how she overcomes writer’s block. The writer responded:
I stop writing when life gets stale.
She continued with advice on how to find inspiration:
So I’ve learned to go to new places, meet new people, have new experiences. Take chances on things you would usually say no to. Be brave for a night and let yourself feel a lot and then let it go the next day. If you connect with a stranger, go for it. Have a conversation for hours about anything, everything. Go to a busy place and write about the people who walk by you. Pretend they are your lovers. Pretend they are people who’s hearts you broke, who broke your heart. Pretend they are your soul mates and the entire universe just came together for you to see this person, then let them walk away. Write about that. I’ve realized that as an artist, I can’t let life be the same. If everything is the same for too long I have to shake it up a bit. If my life is never changing, I will never have anything to write about.
Have conversations with people you see often and have always wanted to talk to but never have. Drive for hours to a new state with a friend or by yourself. Stay up later than the rest of your family and sit on a rock with a blanket wrapped around you. Watch the world you don’t see when you are inside watching tv or sleeping. Fantasize about something passionate. Write about how you’re feeling, what you’re seeing, who you want to be, who you are. Write about your rot and your emptiness and all of your aching parts. Write about the most beautiful moments of your life. Write about the people who have died and the things that happen because of it. Read new books. Read books you never thought you’d read. Read your favorite book 5 times. Underline your favorite lines. Give advice to people. Listen to what others have to say. Pay attention to the way they move and interact with one another. Pay attention to the way they say things without actually saying them. Pay attention to how human they are.
I haven’t posted a personal blog on this site in months, and I couldn’t figure out why I lost the motivation. Her answer was dead on; life got stale. Life got too routine and too comfortable for me, and when that happened, I became uninspired. After I returned from my break in Europe in January, I vowed to come back with a new outlook on life. To live, rather than exist, but by February, I noticed I had settled back in to routine, yet again.
Life was stale. It was boring, and to top things off, I was burned out
Then a friend of mine invited me on a trip.
One that wasn’t exactly my idea of a getaway but I kept an open mind and went.
From there I started experiencing things that shook me to the core. Over the next few months, I did something I rarely do, and that’s let people get close to me, and in doing that, I saw my reflection in those people. I was forced to face my truths head on, the good, the bad, and the very ugly.
Ouuhhh and it was bad!
One thing I’ve learned is that if you aren’t willing to confront your truth, then it’s almost impossible to leave your baggage at the door, and have happy and fulfilling relationships with people.
And since my goal is to one day live a happy, joyous life, complete with a family, that includes a soul mate and beautiful kids, I had to take a good, long, hard look in that mirror, and find out who I really was.
Then I pulled out my journal.
Over a period of time, I answered the following questions:
What makes you happy?
What makes you sad?
What are some things in the past that you haven’t let go?
Are they holding you back?
Are you holding grudges?
Are there people you don’t forgive?
What are you most afraid of and why?
How do you see your ‘perfect life’ in the next 5 years? 10 years?
What do you want your legacy to be?
How do you want to be remembered by people who only get a chance to meet you one time?
Answering those questions really gave me clarity in my life so that I could push forward and start walking in my purpose.
I was talking to one of my girlfriends the other day, and she said, if we had the things we say we wish we had, do you think we’d be happy? And that was a difficult question for me because I realized that everything I had on my vision board in 2009, I’ve achieved. I have it. But I don’t feel fulfilled, and I think that is because as I grew older, my wants and needs changed. My priorities changed, not to mention you learn really quick that money and material things is not enough to fill up an empty love tank.
In this celeb-obsessed world, it has been very important for me to share my personal journey outside of my entertainment news blog, because there are people who have found strength in knowing that I’ve had the same struggles that they do, and I have overcome them. When I don’t write and share my journey, I am left feeling empty. There’s a huge void, which leads me to believe that my personal blogs (and maybe one day writing a book) is all a part of my overall purpose.
So I’m going to take the writer’s advice. I’m moving soon (yes, again), to another state, to experience new things. New people. To challenge myself. To face my fears. And to, most of all, get inspired to keep writing. To keep this thing going.
All I ask, between breaks in writing, is that you don’t give up on me..