If you want anything out of life you have to totally do it yourself and wait around for no one. Don’t expect anyone to hand you favors as well. I say this because everytime I turn around I am being asked a favor…and it’s fine but when it’s time for me to ask for a favor in return…it’s always no avail. Yes, No one’s owes me anything. I wrote a blog about this.
But what I hate the most is when people come back around to ask another favor after not returning a call on one of my favors. I hear the whispers that I’ve changed and Yes I have. I’ve become very cold and the more stuff, I end up doing on my own after repeatedly reaching out, the colder I become…because suddenly you realize that maybe that was God’s way of telling you, you really don’t need anyone to do anything for you.
I think I got this. But I’m tired of people coming at me like I’ve never done SH*T for them! I changed my number for a reason. I am TIRED!
just had to vent…
Hi, I'm Necole!
Not to sound corny but there is a line in a movie that says with great power comes great responsibility..of course you have changed..with blessing comes growth and not everyone can deal with that..instead of being happy for you they want to tear you down to feel better about what they have not yet accomplished themselves..it is VERY evident that God has blessed you so let no man curse you with their negativity..the one thing that should always change for the better is your stength and faith love keeps no record of wrongs BUT the word also says to guard your heart for out of it flows the issues of life..I read your blog eariler and some girl got on you for not publishing her comments…she then went HARD bringing up your past and saying how necolebitchie forgot where she came from..you handled that with such grace..keep up that same attitude and know when others try to use your testimony to tear you down it really has lifted those who needed it up…IRON SHARPENS IRON honey..I hope I don’t sound stalkerish but I say this cause some of your words have inspiried me (re:visions boards etc) too great responses..keep your head up young black girl and never forget the God who blesses you and you’ll struggle but will always come out on top !!
From one sistah to another!!!
Hey Girl! thanks for your comment. I can’t tell you how many people have told someone they stopped commenting on my site because “I have an attitude” or whatever excuse. I am so tired of people disrespecting me for NO apparent reason at all and I told the girl you are talking about that. She apologized but still, she came at me in a very disrespectful manner.
I was explaining this very thing to an interviewer yesterday and I broke down in the middle of the interview. I told her, People say this and that but they can’t take this away from me. I’ve worked HARD and finally succeeded in something and I’ll be damn if I let someone just come and snatch it all away. I think people say those things because deep down they are angry with me for some reason. I stepped out on faith when I decided to start the site and refused to send out resumes to companies that would provide me with a 401k and benefits. They think I’m “Lucky” or it was all just handed to me and it wasn’t. I’m still struggling each day to be the best i can be as a person and make my site grow to it’s true potential. I have road bumps and curve balls just like everyone else.
Girl thanks so much for your comment. I needed to hear that this morning.
Necole
no prob..i owe u for sharing your testimony since I read the vision board blog..I have gotten back into school (university was always a dream–I already have a great paying job but reaching higher) got into the management training program at work!! BISHES IN CHARGE AND started losing weight!!! so Thanks to YOU and know you got a sistah praying you up honey!!
Hey Necole,
Brush them shoulders off – you are truly anointed and those negative, devil driven people see that, that’s why they keep coming at you for NO reason. One comparative word…JESUS.
I read these dailies below (see link below), that really help me start off my day in this crazy world of being a single parent and career driven professional. Hope it helps you also as I feel today’s message is appropriate to you…
http://churchinthenow.org/AYearInTheNow.aspx
PS: When we gonna do a NB ATL night or something…that’s my PR hat talking, lol. I’m in the industry, in fact you KNOW some of my clients, but I’m an avid reader first and foremost.
Best…
I can so understand and relate 1000% to this, b/c last yr I went through hell both: mental, emotional and even physical due to the stress. I’ve always been the one to help people, be there regardless of the time of day or night and to support others. I had so many folks that will say “Call me if you need anything…sure I’ll good with you and give you moral support” and etc. To all those people I gave my all regardless, but as soon and I mean as soon as a storm came my way I got the: straight to voicemail, no answered emails and the I see her let me walk fast the other way. All, I had was God and my family to fall back on. This process hurt my heart, it made me angry b/c I really saw who were and weren’t my true friends (one of 5yrs or so I thought). I felt so by myself in many ways. That was the first time really that I had days of no knew texts, phone calls or voicemail messages. I was pretty much raised by my father whom I was terribily close to and he passed in 2006, my mother and I are close but sometimes I can’t reach her for a week and so forth so I was dealing with alot. But once I really fell on my face, cried/screamed out to God my hurt and anguish the burden was lifted.
Thereafter, I cleaned house not out of anger or bitterness, but I knew that these people didn’t deserve to be in my circle, users and selfpleasers. I changed my phone number, I deleted contacts from all aspects of email or internet contact and the same people play the dumb role by saying “Hey! how are you? what happened? you changed your number?” and so many times I wanted to say “Yep! sure did, and gave it to those who I wanted to have it not like you were there or calling anyways” but I didn’t I just smile and say “Oh I made some changes, but all is well thanks for asking..have a good one now” walking away and they are still standing there looking stupid when they know good darn well why they don’t have my new number.
My point is that I made a mistake and put everything into man, instead of putting it all in God, it showed my dependency on people, and I realized that NO ONE is going to take care of me/daughter but ME.