If I told you guys who inspired me to put my cooking apron on, you probably wouldn’t believe it.
I was motivated to learn how to cook in 2013 after being introduced to British model Jourdan Dunn’s cooking show on Jay-z’s Life & Times Youtube channel. I received the link in an email blast, and out of curiosity and to humor myself, I watched the first few episodes.
I will admit, I went in to it with a pretty tainted perception of the show. My first few questions where, “What can this pretty bish teach me about cooking? And is she really cooking up these meals or is it all for show?” However, I found it to be enjoyable, and it quickly defied the stereotype that thin girls can’t cook. She especially sold me when she wasn’t afraid to get her hands dirty as she cooked up some game day wings.
Somebody wife her up stat!
Anyway, on the first episode of the second season, she invited model Cara Develinge to cook with her. Mind you, early in the episode Cara says she only knows how to cook toast and baked beans, and that “Modern Day Wifey’s don’t need to know how to cook.” Ha!
I guess I should add that in the winter of 2013, I learned how to cook various meals by watching videos on allrecipes.com, and it wasn’t until I learned how to crank out some good meals, that I finally felt like a woman. It kinda validated my womanhood a little and I found myself eating a lot healthier as well. I grew up in a non-cooking household, so microwave dinners and high sodium quick-meals like Ramon noodles consumed my body for the bulk of my childhood. I don’t want to raise my kids that way, and I now feel as though I am more than prepared to hold down my household and my family when that time comes.
Now, I can truly say that I’m wifey material. 🙂
Dear Future Hubby, I’m ready…
Catch Jourdun and Cara cooking up some shrimp tempura in the kitchen below:
Hi, I'm Necole!
My husband loves to cook, so he does all the cooking, and I do the cleaning. It works (mostly) for us.
Yeah….duh?!
Not necessarily. My fiance and I split cooking duties because we both enjoy it.
I cook for my boyfriend sometimes. I´m preggo right now so I dont have much energy. I feel better knowing I fed him. I got to be old fashion some way LOL
Yes. If you can´t cook, learn!
Have to? No.
Yes. My mother always taught me make sure your man always has a meal to come home to!
yes but so should he!!
Yes in deed. Nobody want to eat out and eat at restaurants forever. She better be taking some cooking classes or hooking up with her Mom/Grandma/Auntie. I can cook I prefer home cook meals anyday before eating out.
Modern or old school, every woman should know how to cook!!
no
That is a great skill set.
Absolutely!!!!
Women learn to cook! And if your from the Caribbean and you can´t cook shame on you! *Shakes index finger* lol
Every woman should know how to cook.
Oh she FAHN DOE
I´m Gay, I have a man that likes to eat good food, so, I step to the plate!
Every man wants a good home cooked meal…if she don´t cook he´ll find another chick who will…and won´t tell his girl no different
No!
she probably should attempt to try but its not needed all the time. Society has evolved to the point when a guy can cook and a woman can watch sports
As a wife I do not have cook everyday but I at least know how to cook. My husband appreciates a good home cooked meal but understands it is not going to happen on the regular. He knows I am just too tired after work.
Absolutely
The fact of the matter is that woman this century are too busy to cook. Most are working full time jobs and going to school full time. Now if you´re a stay at home wife, then that´s an entirely different story.
No. Every relationship is different. If your relationship is based on defined gender roles and putting the woman in the kitchen then yes. But many modern couple split duties on which the partner is good at and WANT to do.
You can´t cater to a man, if you can´t cook. Get that ass in the kitchen.
i wouldn´t want a man or woman who doesn´t cook
hell nah.
Its nothing wrong with both husband and wife cooking but they both should know or learn how to cook eating out everyday its good for you or the pockets and everyone cant afford a personal cook people learn how to do everything else non-cooking related so start cooking
To keep my tradition of my heritage I will make sure ill learn all the recipes. And pass it on. I think it´s important to know how to cook
Not all the damn time,I believe that your man should have a home-cooked meal,but it´s a two-way street!Cause these men will get spoiled and will expect a meal everyday.I mean cook breakfast,make lunch have dinner together and sit and talk about how your day went,Not be bone ass tired and still cook a meal!Compromise is always best when I´m tired cook me a meal just like I´ll do the same for you!!
I don´t cook (sometimes when i have time i try), i hate that and i hate washing dishes as well ( the more you cook, the more dishes you have to wash so … ) and i won´t change for no man ! You love cooked meals and stuff ?! Then do them by yourself or go away. Period. ( I´m Carribean and not ashamed )
Splitting cooking duties is one thing…she said her friend can´t cook at all…that´s a problem..
At least 3-4 times a week
yes women should learn how to cook. you don´t have to good like your mom or grandma but know how to cook. It´s not health to do take out everyday anyways… My bf and I share cooking and cleaning responsibilities.
Every Woman w kidz ..should know how…
Its about setting priorities if iam raising kids and working and going to school either iam going to wait to they get older where they can cook for themselves or you have to do it all kids cant eat degrees or timecards if you cooking and your dead tired thats what you have to do many mothers do that and makes it work being to busy is a cop out
yes!! I cook for my husband…….You Should honor your Husband and Your husband should honor his wife. Woman should aleast learn. A way to a mans heart is his stomach. 🙂
Yes.
you should know not only for him but for yourself. ain´t nothing smart or healthy about eating out all the time. shit gets old. I cook for my family and for myself. ain´t gotta worry about what´s in it.and probably a reason why I´m still married
Umm yes she does. If not, then I and they will eat somewhere else, and you know what´s for dessert.
You´re not only feeding your man, but your children as well. I wasn´t raised on takeout food. Some people don´t realize that every meal doesn´t require a lot of time in the kitchen. I work 9 hours a day with a 2 hour commute to/from work and I´m getting my degree. There is no excuse to not know how to cook. If I can do it……
Does my boo thang allow me to stay at home and not work? Can´t be traditional on one side and modern day on the other. Not in my book anyway.
P.s. A man can´t run away on a full stomach lol.
HELL YEAH!
Nope but it helps!
smdh
Yes they do. The man has to eat. Or he´ll go elsewhere.. Lol
My mister does most of the cleaning and the laundry. There should be a compromise somewhere, or else the house will be messy and you´ll be too fat from all the takeout. If you´re too tired to cook, you´re probably too tired to go to the gym too. C´mon ladies. Its not that hard.
defined gender roles??
DUH
tH?
Modern day wife mother, hmmmm I´ve been married 20 years and most of those years I cooked at least 4 days the other 3 would be go for what u know 🙂 I worked a full time job & my kids where very active in school activities believe me it was hard but I did it just me & the hubby now so we eat out some times but rather eat home cook meals.
if she wants to.
I wouldn´t say it´s (necessarily) a requirement, but I certainly think it´s better if she knows how. Nothing wrong with a guy wanting a lady who knows her way around the kitchen.
he could feed himself! this is the 21st century!!!
I know how to cook but I hate cooking, one of my prerequisites in dating was that a man has to love cooking and my husband does!!!
It would be in everyone´s best interest if both husband and wife knew how to cook. Modern day wife my arse, that doesn´t negate the fact that your family should be cared for, be it by husband or wife.
cooking is not my thing,some people can´t cook! not everyone can.
@Emmarald Clark: So damn true! I know quite a few men who have a woman at home they love & a woman/women on the outside who cooks for him & provides other things the ´modern day wifey´ won´t do… trust & believe they tell their other women their wifey don´t cook because blah, blah, blah! Trust & believe the cooking gf is gunning to take yuh man from yuh! Lol #realtalk
I would suggest it, if you´re gonna have kids!
Umm of course
I don´t have to do anything I don´t want to! Lol! I can cook for myself, but why do wifey things like cook and clean if you´re not an actual wife?
Why not
Let be realistic
Some things are “good for order”
I wouldn´t much of a dues if a noise was heard down stairs and I send the wife to check out out while I covered in bed
Yea, cant order take out everyday
It´s funny how some women love to talk about all a man must be able to provide for them but will call the modern day woman BS when it comes to being a wife. Taking care of your husband does not make you less of a woman.
Gender roles are contextual based on learnt customs of society and surrounding cultures. You learn at an early age how the culture you live expects males and females should think, speak, dress, and interact within that context of your society. So when I say “if your relationship is based on defined gender roles” I mean if you value and put emphasizes on women doing duties that are stereotypical feminine duties then you will want or need for a wife to know how to cook.
@)FlyGyal TchouPlein; everyone has to do what´s best for them. If that´s how you truly are, like you said, you shouldn´t have to change. At least your honest. All things aren´t for everyone.
Thats good.
I guess that might be an issue for my future husband because I’m spoiled and it’s all my dads fault. I’m 22 and when I go home my dad cooks me breakfast/dinner and will clean up the kitchen. He even says that it’s ok for girls not to know how to cook and that men should know how to and not expect a woman to. When my parents first met my mom didn’t know how to cook so my dad had to teach her. I’m great a breakfast and baking but not much else. I’m happy to learn but I feel it should be 50/50.
Your mom had it made! Let me tell you, my mom actually wasn’t the best cook, and we were poor so I literally grew up on microwave dinners. I am amazed that I am in good health now that I think about it. I felt like I owed it to myself to not only learn how to cook, but to also make healthier choices in the foods I chose to consume…and that’s hard when you don’t know how to cook. You’ll eat anything.
@rho…no shade, dear, but you think that it’s cute that you can’t cook? I have a male friend and he spoils his 16 year old the same way. He doesn’t make her do ANYTHING around the house and she’s a monster.
My dad is the same way! matter fact, he is in my kitchen as we speak lol….this is sad, im so spoiled, however i did make it my business to learn how to cook to atleast feed myself. Im not the best, but im decent enough
i see sooo many people saying, “a man will eat some where else if you dont cook”, a man will eat some where else whether you cook or not, fact of the matter is you aint keepin no dude if he dont wanna be KEPT, whether paula deen or take out queen, at the end of the day there is something called compromising and WORKING with your mate, yea i am a mother and a wife and i can cook my ass off , some of you ladies better know just because you can cook doesnt always mean that your man wont stray away, if he wishes for you to cook and you can´t, simply get a cook book and let him see the effort, it should make him appreciate you more because you are trying for him, in my opinion if a man leaves his woman because she can´t cook, then she didnt need him to begin with because there is waaay more to a relationship than a damn plate!
Amen!
Yes I will wash
Yes I will cook
Yes I will do laundry
But there are basically things that
In my experience women do better than men
That not sexist or anything like that
It´s my observation
As before
I´m not sending my lady out at night to check the door is locked it get something out of the car or lift the heavy groceries
Yes ..yes she could if she wanted to but she shouldn´t have to
I absolutely believe you should cook for your man ESPECIALLY your husband. If you can´t I suggest you learn a meal or three.
Yes!!! If she don´t want him eating dinner somewhere else, she might need to learn to do something in the kitchen other than using the microwave!!
You shouldn´t have to but why wouldn´t you want too! The best feeling is cooking for someone and they love it!
i agree
I´m lucky enough to have inherited great kitchen skills from both grandmas. ( my grandma requests my sweet potato pie)….my hubby and I both cook. But we ALL know that some men let their woman get away with it. Not cooking or can´t cook.
My husband can cook his butt off so we used to split the cooking because my food wasn´t up to par. But at least I´ve always tried. 4 years into our marriage I´m finally getting around the kitchen pretty well. I wasn´t raised on takeout or canned food and I want the same for my family (healthy food).
Glover´s Goodies & Quick Meals
Simple recipes a child can even follow.
you´re right, he can drive, or take a taxi lmao
everybody needsto learn how to cook
Guess if they stopped trying to b wifey and b a wife they´d already b prepared to do the things required of a wife.. They so busy quoting scripture these days all these so called Proverbs 31 women. If u expect that man to go out and work to provide for his family then the least u can do is cook for him.. Clean the house and make sure u taking care of the kids. The state of marriage is falling by the wayside b/c to many want the title, but not the responsibility.
Preach!
Yes!
She should know how. Eating out gets old!
Who wants a wifey?
I´m a grown ass man. That´s teen talk.
go joie lol love your yt channel
Yes she need to know how to cook. Not everyday but yeah.my kids cant eat McDonald´s all the time. Quit all this “MODERN” talk bullshit yall are women , are you going to get your modren ass out there and cut the grass change the oil or a flat tire.
yes and it´s heathy and it also saves a lot of money.
I cook at least 3 times a week
Yes!! It´s about clean food and nutrition
Every person should be self sufficient…..both my husband and I are very good cooks.
Of course, I believe if you can read then you should know how to cook. But to answer the question does a wife “have to” know how to cook, I don´t believe so. All relationships are different. Some men enjoy doing all the cooking, some hire someone to do all the cooking and others take turns. I don´t like labels or definite guidelines on how a relationship or marriage should be because we all are different.
Question is: Does modern day man have to eat?
A woman should always know how to cook because you can´t eat out everyday. I know how to cook because my mother taught me and she always told me the keys to a man stomach is good cooking. I don´t know of a man that don´t like a womn that can cook.
It may be a major reason why we have higher numbers in not having husbands. In my home we both cook. But I have signature meals that my husband looks forward to me preparing for him to enjoy. 20+ years happily married.
My co-worker can´t cook anything and she jus got married! Guess it depends on the man…
lmaooo heyyy gurrrrr, thank u for the supportt xxoxxo
I can cook well enough to feed my fam…but ordering out isn´t so bad either when your a busy mom like myself lol
You better tell it Joie!
I didn´t learn to cook until I had gotten married. It was good because I was able to learn how to cook for my man they way he liked. Remember ladies cooking does not keep your man at home it´s other things. It just keeps him full until he gets to his other woman´s house.
xxoxxo =D
I´m not a wife but I´m a PROFESSIONAL HOME COOK! That means I can cook my ass of without the help. You should at least know the basics.
I can´t speak for anyone else but I do.
Lol….. Yes skinny girls can cook too….. Love me some Jourdan Dunn can´t believe she is a mother and still skinny. Society makes women lazier nowadays coz too much take away and restaurants . I love to cook but my lifestyle makes me too busy to cook.
We´re not talking Thanksgiving meals 3-4 times a week. If you can´t put together a 30-49 minutes meal (entree & 2 sides) that makes no sense for a man or woman. “I can´t cook” WTH
Correction: 30-40
Everyone needs to know how cook! Especially women. I’m a believer in women being domesticated! While I don’t believe we have to be stuck in the kitchen, isn’t that capability something men are seeking in a “wife”!? My poor generation is struggling in that department and you can easily see how well that’s going for us. Lol
Our children especially need to be eating home balanced home cooked meals
In some relationships the man is the one who loves to cook and is much better at cooking than the woman. It´s not about who SHOULD cook, it´s about who enjoys it more and who is better at cooking. Everyone can help out doing what ever it is they do best.
This question is for the men really. My dad used to cook all the meals, but he always used to say he loved when my mom cooked cus it was her way of “providing” in some sense & taking care of the home.
For me it´s not necessarily about the husband, because my hubby is more than capable in the kitchen and every so often he takes over or we wing it, but once you have kids you need to be nourishing their brains and take out and package food mostly put empty calories in their stomachs and makes them more likely to be obese. So for the love of my child my ass will be in that kitchen cooking at least 5 days a week
In my opinion, no she doesn´t. Marriage is about what strengths you bring to it. If cooking isn´t your strength, it doesn´t diss qualify you from marriage. I can cook, do I like to nope but I know me and mine have to eat.
I feel like being able to cook is important. But if you can’t cook being willing to learn to cook that’s great. Men want a wife that can at least make them their favorite meal.
A WIFE should know how to cook.
Yes – no cook – no man
I was never much of a cook, because my mom is a control freak and didn’t like anyone in her kitchen! While I was on my own, I ate out mostly or ate processed foods at home. Now that I am a (temporary) housewife, I have finally learned how to cook. I agree with you Necole, I feel like a complete woman now! I can move in the kitchen with the ease that I moved in the corporate world! I am every woman, baby!
Good topic!
Say that again @Desirée , I hate cooking , but I do it cause my seed has to eat
Yes
This is not the 1960’s anymore and women should not be expected to be Susie the house maker. I believe it should be 50/50, just like I believe a woman should also help out with things such as mowing the lawn, that does not always have to be a man’s job.
I think it’s important to know how to cook, not just for your man but for yourself & future kids. You can’t just rely on take-out. It’s way more expensive & unhealthy (depending on where your getting the food from). I grew up watching my mom cook good ol jamaican food. I didn’t cook until i was in college & on my own. & i easily picked up her cooking ways & tricks. My dad also knows how to cook too. But i don’t get why someone wouldn’t want to know how to cook. it can be fun sometimes.
**I can say i’m a lil offended by the comment “skinny girls can’t cook…” wth lol. It’s not my fault i got a fast metabolism. I love to eat, it’s my bff but i watch what goes in my mouth. A skinny chick can put a big girl to shame in the kitchen! lol
Yes, a woman needs to know how to cook..However, a man needs to know how to cook as well in case a woman is not present to do so….it is not about traditional roles, its about independence and knowing how to survive in my opinion…i been cooking since i was 11-12 yrs old and it is a damn shame people my age do not know how to cook…but i guess, to each their own
Yup, don´t no man want take out all the time!!!!
Modern or old fashion, it doesn´t matter one should cook. if you do not cook, someone else will be cooking for your husband and more.
If you can´t cook isn´t that a problem?
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I think children and husbands need home cooked food. Its not that hard. Just learn unless you have money for a good chef.
Yeah go ahead and cook. Have to eat anyway
Casey TheLady
I think all women should know how to cook bottom line
If you don´t know how to cook you should TRY to learn and stop making excuses.
Yes, that is why our kids suffer from health problems and eat unhealthy. Home cooked meals are best!
You should want to know how to cook for yourself let alone a man. And the man should cook as well.
EVERY woman should know how to cook. No man wants take out every single night. Nothing compares to a good home cooked meal. I am the mother of three sons and I am teaching them to cook because they need to be able to help out their future wives. My husband and I share cooking duty and we love it.
Yes she does. Cooking does more the the soul than what you think. My husband and I actually cook together. It shows appreciation for one another, another form of intimacy, and we learn from each other.
I cook to survive, not to please a man. Everyone needs to learn how to cook and stop buying junk full of synthetic hormones.
how are you going to eat if you can´t cook. learn like you learn everything else you need to get done in life
Every wife and husband should know how to cook and share the responsibility… My husband can cook something´s better than I and vice versa… We teach our kids to help out in the kitchen while we prepare the food… I want my boys to be self sufficient … Besides eating out is unhealthy and costly
If she dont cook, she aint no wifey. Simple as that.
Every freakin woman should know how to cook..and if u got a man,betta cook for him too..& the kids 🙂 eatin out sucksss sometimes
Yes every wifey should know how to cook, and every hubby should know how to treat his wifey…If he´s a good man he´s worth ur time in the kitchen and smelling a clean house, why not, he treats u good, he loves u right, and he isn´t afraid to throw down if he has to, BUT if he aint sh*t then he can serve himself a heaping plate of aint sh*t steak while sitting on an aint sh*t couch in an aint sh*t apartment…And he aint gettin sh*t from a good wifey…
As a woman u should know how to make something lol. But theres nothing wrong w having ur man cook for u as well. I would love to find a guy that can cook for his fam when i dont feel like cooking. A lot of things are diff nowadays but a woman (old or modern) should know how to cook.
Yassss lol
Knowing how to cook doesn´t mean jack… He´ll eat your food and burn off the calories with some other hoochie -_-
no excuses.. cause he will find someone to cook for him if you do´t so stop shopping or calling orders and coo a meal for your man especially f hes a good man.
@Dallas Hodges, We are on the same Page as you as a couple. It is an enjoyable teamwork effort. I enjoy not having to do it all. The Help is nice.. Well, an cooking isn’t his strong suit. So.. sometimes.. order in hunny? or carry out?
A woman doesn’t have to live in the kitchen but she should know how to get around. She should also know a few quick and easy meal ideas ready to go at a moments notice. Personally I’m old fashion so I was taught that a great home cooked meal on a regular keeps a happy husband.
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